1. They feel they aren’t in need or it doesn’t apply to them. They may be unaware what they are experiencing is intimate partner violence.
2. They aren’t ready yet. It is a lot to admit to yourself much less another human being. To say it out loud makes it real. They may be in denial or think since the cycle is in a resting or honeymoon phase it will continue to improve and simply go away.
3. They are desensitized. Their fear meter has been immobilized. They’ve been here before, and they are still alive. Their mental model is their past experience, not what could happen in the future. They have no reason to believe now will be different, less safe until it is.
4. They don’t trust you. They are used to keeping secrets, putting up smoke screens. They may fear you will not keep it confidential, that you will disclose to or confront the aggressor and jeopardize their safety, or that you will force them to take action.
5. They are in need, they are ready, they are afraid, they trust you, but they don’t understand they have options and what those options are.
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I have the ability to inspire and I am a thriver not a survivor any longer. I want to help, I have the ability to change mindsets and passionate it reflects in everything I say. I am a great story teller of the truth and I want to help woman like myself get to where I am. I want to be a part of the solution! I am confident in my abilities I am a student at 41 attending college. I want to be active and effective how and where can I start?
I don’t have finances I gave my alimony up and child support of 5000 a mo. To put my ex behind bars by supporting the woman he had an affair with in her case. I am a success story .