It’s not the tragedies that kill us. It’s the messes. Dorothy Parker
How do you implode a family?
You
control
intimidate
berate
humiliate
blame
neglect
threaten
With
drinking
cheating
jealousy
names
isolation
games
poking
pinching
pushing
pulling
blocking
hitting
choking
guns
shooting
What remains is our
pain
panic
depression
secrets
inertia
fear
trauma
numbness
flash backs
anxiety
nightmares
grief
anger
vulnerability
anorexia
cutting
suicide
I won’t let you win. I will fight for them like I fought for me. You will not win.
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. John 14:27
Shameless Survivors 
You and your family are every in my prayers, but please let me know if I can be of any more tangible help. I am here for you and N & G. And I will fight too – if you need me or if you can somehow let me. I know it is not ever easy to let someone inside the loneliness and isolation, having lived it a bit myself.